Have you ever felt like it couldn’t get worse? That everyone is conspiring against you? Are you there now? When you’re going through hell, just keep on going. Here are two ways to make that trip even shorter.
This past weekend we celebrated my son’s 4th birthday. Right after birthday cake and right before opening presents he starts to have a meltdown and he gets argumentative. A few minutes later he is over it and happy as can be. It is most often this way with children. One minute they are mad as can be and a minute later they are laughing and running around playing. Children instinctively know how to let go and move on.
When you are going through hell, let go and move on. Ask yourself, ten years from now, will this matter? When this is over and you are past it, will it matter?
Most of the time your answer will be no because it really doesn’t matter in the long run. People say, “one day we will look back at this and laugh.” Why not laugh about it now?
Children are born with an amazing ability to get over something very quickly. Most of the time it is because they turn their focus to something that brings them joy like a toy or play time. Why do we loose this as adults? We should take this lesson and incorporate it into our everyday lives.
For most people, going through hell means other people are putting them in that hell. When someone is making you mad, sad, discouraged, or knocking your self-worth, walk away and play with someone else for that day. If the same person does it over and over, you need to tell that person, “hey, when you do/say that it makes me feel sad (mad, discouraged, etc). Please don’t do/say things like that to me.”
If somebody is consistent in making bringing you down and dragging you into a hell, you need to separate from that person all together. This may be your boos, co-workers, friends, and even family. If someone is constantly abusing your value and self-worth, they don’t deserve to have you as part of their life. And you don’t need them. NOBODY is worth keeping in your life that tears you down
When you start purging your life of the dream-killers, you may find yourself with only a few friends. That is perfect. You then start building your life with a peer group that brings you up and encourages you. A team that believes in your ideas and goals and says, “Go for it!”
Find friends by going to like-minded groups and associations. There are many power groups on Meetup.com that are all about empowerment, success, relationships, spirituality and networking. Try a few and find people and groups you like. Toastmasters (speaking and communication) groups are filled with fantastic people
What about when you are going through a different kind of hell that isn’t as easy as walking away from someone? Like a divorce, accident, illness, or financial struggles? Here is the strategy for that …
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Life Transformation and Peak Performance Expert, author, professional speaker, and global traveler. Croix is the Author of Dream Big Act Big, Dream Big Life Planner, Morning Manifestation, and the host of the Zen Warrior Podcast. He travels full time living the speaker and laptop lifestyle living part time in Costa Rica and wherever he feels like experiencing.