Everyone’s path is different. Don’t be afraid to take the path that is right for you. This may mean you have go it alone for a while, but go anyway. Live in your greatness and you will find the people who are suppose to be in your life.
Your family, your friends and even society at large wants you to live your life in a particular way. You should have a certain job, get married, live in a house, have 2.4 kids, and act like them. Most of that is desirable and in alignment with most people. That’s how societal norms are created. But what if that is not you? What if you have a craving for something different?
I used to own really big homes and drive fancy cars. I did well for myself at a very young age. Even thought I was the class screw up in high school, I was doing better than most all my peers and many would say, “Wow, look at what you made of yourself.” But the reality is that I was living someone else’s dream. I was living society’s dream and I didn’t even know it because I was so conditioned to look at the world in a certain way. And then something started to change me.
In my late 20’s I discovered scuba diving and I started traveling around the waters of the Caribbean and the Americas. I started to see how other people, cultures and language influenced the world. I discovered that what many would call 3rd world countries, was often first class living. I don’t mean in money of course, but in terms of happiness, love and relationships. I began to learn and realize that I had my life backwards and that I missed a lot of great years by working 15-16 hour days “to get ahead.” Years I now wish I would have been living instead of grinding it out as a home remodeling contractor. Years I wish I would have been traveling, learning new languages and cultures.
What I have learned to be true is that in western culture, our perspective of the world is incredibly limited. I know mine used to be super limited. We don’t travel to other countries and when we do it is for a week to an overpriced resort totally insulated from the real life of the surrounding culture. The only cultural experience most get is looking out the window on the drive from the airport to the resort.
When I travel I don’t usually go to the tourist hot spots, I go find the hidden gems that only the locals know. I rent a car or hire a taxi to take me to places that tourist never see. I eat at roadside eateries or hidden restaurants that the locals rave about that only seat 3-4 tables and the owners or staff don’t speak English. Many times, I can only point to a line on the menu to order what I want. It’s just a guess to what I will get served. I seem to have very good luck this way because the food is often amazing.
This is the adventure of life. To live as YOU wish to live. I don’t expect you to run across America or live a nomadic life. But your life must be lived on your terms. If you have a corporate 9-5 be the very best you can be in that role. If you don’t like your job, fix it or leave it. We are lead to believe that the goal is to climb the corporate ladder. But the truth is that the goal is to be happy. That may mean accelerating up the ranks in a company or it may not. Do what you want to do. Do what makes you happy not what others expect of you.
Others will tell you that you should do this or be that. And most people will try to be what others want them to be or at least appear to be what they want. But then one day, they wake up and think, “What the hell am I doing? How did I even get here?” Most still won’t change, but a few do. My one-on-one clients are people who woke up and said, “I want more.” And the cool thing is that their definition of “more” is different for each of them. And then we design a life plan to make that happen and I help guide them while they create their new life.
At the end of the day – and when I say that I mean, at the end of your life – few things matter. But one thing that will matter is how you look back on your life. Will it be filled with gratitude saying, “This has been one hell of an amazing ride”or will you be saying, “If only I did …” and “I wish I had …”. Which one it is – is your determined by the choices you make today.
Make your life an adventure worth remembering.
Life Transformation and Peak Performance Expert, author, professional speaker, and global traveler. Croix is the Author of Dream Big Act Big, Dream Big Life Planner, Morning Manifestation, and the host of the Zen Warrior Podcast. He travels full time living the speaker and laptop lifestyle living part time in Costa Rica and wherever he feels like experiencing.