It was rude and even mean. As I scrolled through Instagram, I saw a post by a fellow author that I admire. In his video he talked about how the media lies and skews the truth to fit bias of the channel. I continued to listen.
But then …
He turned mean and judgmental. This New York Times bestselling and famous author was talking about a current event happening right now when he said, those people are stupid and what the hell do they know? He was bashing a huge segment of our population.
I understand he is passionate about his views and beliefs, but I was disappointed that he turned so venomous.
Who is he? … It doesn’t matter.
I share this with you because right now, smart and reasonable people are doing and saying things out of character.
We are living in uncharted times. We are dealing with a convergence of storms we’ve never dealt with in our lifetime. And 24/7 negative news will draw you in and mess with your emotions and peace of mind. Because death and mayhem keeps us glued to the TV.
I admit, this has been hard for me too at times. Even though I have been studying mindset and psychology for almost 15 years, and pushing my mind to its limits, there have been moments that are difficult to deal with. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed with what is happening.
So I want to share with you my 5 tips for dealing with uncertain times. Backed by science and my experiences pushing my mind as a champion athlete.
5 Ways to Stay Strong in Uncertain Times.
1 – It is, what it is …
When I was running through the desert to break the world record, I couldn’t argue with the heat, the sun, or the temperatures of 117 degrees. I had to accept it for what it is. In fact, I had to embrace it, in a manner of speaking.
Not in a suffering kind of way. I know people who love to suffer. I don’t like hanging out with those people. But to release the resistance to what is. To accept this moment and this time.
If you are unhappy, and if you can change it … then change it
If you can’t change it, then change the way you feel about it.
That’s the inner work that we must all do right now.
Feel what you feel … then find a way to grow stronger from it.
Posting to Instagram and calling people names only alienates others and makes shows the ugly of that person.
2 – Thankfully it’s not worse
I witnessed a car accident where the cars got banged up bad, but nobody got hurt. One woman got out screaming and yelling about how this will ruin her day, raise her insurance rates, and make her late for an important meeting.
The other woman was calm and visibly grateful. She responded, “Thankfully it not worse.” Just as the screaming lady was about to start shouting again, she saw into the back seat of the window of the other car. That’s when she saw 2 concerned toddlers in the back seat staring back at her. She took a deep breath and said, “Yes, glad nobody was hurt, the cars can be fixed.”
It can always be better, but it can always be worse. Much, much worse.
I always strive to be grateful for what I have, even when I have had very little. I always strive to appreciate the moment, no matter how dark and ominous it might seem and feel.
Right now, in the midst of the uncertainty, I see families getting closer, people starting home based businesses, and people increasing their savings. Plus so much more.
Life isn’t normal right now, but there is still so much to be grateful for.
Everyday when you wake up, think of 3 things you are grateful for.
3 things you haven’t focused on in the past.
3 – Be Kind
I think you’ll agree with me that there is not enough kindness in the world. Especially at this moment. And that is why kindness is even more important.
I had just arrived back in NYC from a trip. It was a brutally hot day. The kind of day you hurry to get under the shade because the sun is scorching hot. There was a young man selling bottled water out of a cooler. I bought 10 bottles and asked the boy to give them out to homeless people or people who looked like they really needed it. I watched him from a distance as he happily found people in need of water.
I am not sure who got more inner joy from it.
Me, or the boy selling water, or the people receiving it.
Of course you want to be kind to other people every way that you can. But just as important, be kind to yourself. Forgive yourself and give yourself some slack when you make mistakes or fall short of who you want to be. Give yourself a cold bottle of water on a bad hot day when you need it the most.
4 – What are you going to do about it?
We have been in a holding pattern for several months now. And it seems like we will be here for a while, so what are you going to do about it?
When I first started traveling and I felt like my time in the airports and the plane were such a waste of time. But then a friend told me her secret. She always has a list of quick to-do’s, big projects that she can work on, and an audiobook ready to go. This way she always can make her time worthwhile and make it an investment in herself. Even if it is just a couple of minutes waiting on line.
I like to ask people what new thing they have done during the last several months of forced stay-at-home life. Many just moan and complain. Sometimes, I even hear snarky comments like, “Well, we haven’t killed each other yet.”
Many have done nothing. They have not studied a new language, learned how to cook, lost weight, started a new hobby, or started a home based business, and not even read a book.
I know several people who are getting paid to stay home with their whole day free. Literally. They could be getting paid to get healthy or start a side hustle to make extra money. They could learn a new skill to get a promotion when the office opens up. Most skills you can learn with youtube videos. So there are no excuses.
You can have results, or you can have excuses,
But you cannot have both.
This time (and any time) should be a growing and life transformation opportunity. So what are you going to do about it?
If you want life to get better,
you must get better.
5 – Ditch the Darkness
When you were a child and your mother said, “I don’t want you hanging out with him, he’s a bad kid.” Your parents were trying to protect you from the negative influences of other people.
When did that stop becoming important?
Our minds tend to focus on the negative. It’s why complaining is so easy to do, but offering a compliment or praise is rarely heard.
So to stay positive, happy, and grow your inner peace, you have to stand guard at the doors of your mind all the times.
Stop watching the news. Especially 24 hour cable opinion news. If you want to stay up to date, read the news and for just a few minutes. Get the critical info and then stop.
Stop hanging out with negative people. Even if those people are your family, friends, or co-workers. Limit your time with toxic people as much as possible.
Fill your mind positive, uplifting, empowering, and transformation books, shows, programs, movies, and audios. If you are an Instant Manifestation Secrets Member, listen to the audios regularly. Some members listen everyday. They rave about how it has helped them get through these uncertain times.
Always, and especially now, I am careful about what enters my mind. I limit the news I read and I listen and watch things that inspire me, teach me, and empower me. And some good movies to make me laugh.
Life is not always going to be like this. We will get through this. As my uncle said when times were tough, “This too shall pass.”
I know it can be hard to deal with these times, but we also have the choice to make the best of the moment we are living in.
Stay safe ands stay strong,
My heart goes out to those who have been affected in these times. Sending you all, love and strength.
Life Transformation and Peak Performance Expert, author, professional speaker, and global traveler. Croix is the Author of Dream Big Act Big, Dream Big Life Planner, Morning Manifestation, and the host of the Zen Warrior Podcast. He travels full time living the speaker and laptop lifestyle living part time in Costa Rica and wherever he feels like experiencing.